@Neko: Ouch. I really sympathize. Nothing ticks me off more than performing poorly at something -- especially when I KNOW I can do far, far better.
The answer? I've said it before, and I'll probably say it again: If you want to improve, you have to stop reacting to your mistakes. Games like this are all about mental performance, and making yourself angry will not help.
You don't have to take my word for it, either. This is an excerpt from my favorite book on behavior modification, "Don't Shoot the Dog" by Karen Pryor:
Positive reinforcement can even work on yourself. At a Shakespeare study group I once belonged to I met a Wall Street lawyer in his late forties who was an avid squash player. The man had overheard me chatting about training, and on his way out the door afterward he remarked that he thought he would try positive reinforcement on his squash game. Instead of cursing his errors, as was his habit, he would try praising his good shots.
Two weeks later I ran into him again. "How's the squash game?" I asked. A look of wonder and joy crossed his face, an expression not frequently seen on Wall Street lawyers.
"At first I felt like a damned fool," he told me, "saying 'Way to go, Pete, attaboy,' for every good shot. Hell, when I was practicing alone, I even patted myself on the back. And then my game started to get better. I'm four rungs higher on the club ladder than I've ever been. I'm whipping people I could hardly take a point from before. And I'm having more fun. Since I'm not yelling at myself all the time, I don't finish a game feeling angry and disappointed. If I made a bad shot, never mind, good ones will come along. And I find I really enjoy it when the other guy makes a mistake, gets mad, throws his racquet--I know it won't help his game, and I just smile...."
What a fiendish opponent. And just from switching to positive reinforcement.Personally, I still have a hard time doing this during a game -- but when I do, it WORKS. The first time I managed to keep it up consistently was the first time I saw Tuber.

This is also why I've never posted a complaint or sad story in this thread.
I think a lot of people here would play a lot better if they gave this strategy a serious try. (Or a playful try... since games, after all, are meant to be fun.)
